How many of you know the television show Drop Dead Diva? I am not one for watching TV, but this show is a rather good watch! In some ways it has helped me along my journey. Some of their episodes taught some very valuable lessons. For those who haven’t watched it it is about a model by the name of “Deb” who dies and goes to heaven. Upon arriving in heaven she struggles to comes to turns with her death and presses the “return” button. She then returns to earth and her soul enters the most recently vacated body a plus size woman by the name of “Jane” who is brilliant lawyer. The show depicts the journey Deb goes through to embrace her new life as Jane. She is no longer blond, petite or popular, but now a full figured brunette with an amazingly high IQ. And let’s not forget to mention her boyfriend in her life as Deb is now her colleague in Jane’s life. There are a lot of life lessons to learned once you overlook the whole “reincarnation” thing (which I personally do not believe in). In preparing to write this post one episode in particular came to mind.
In the ninth episode of season one Jane is on a mission to buy a dress. Deb is slowing adjusting to her new life as Jane and is treating herself to a whole new wardrobe. Deb can finally shop without any restrictions in her new life as Jane. Her first purchase is a black dress. Unfortunately her shopping spree hits a road block when she realizes they do not make high end designer clothing in plus sizes. To her shock and utter embarrassment Jane/Deb gets thrown out of the boutique along with her best friend Stacy. Seeking retribution Jane decides to sue the company for discrimination.
In the episode Jane finds a cause of action and a jury is selected who will be supportive to her claim. Now seeing as I was once a very obese woman and still fall within the plus size category I feel this needs to be said. Not everything clothing line should be altered or adjusted to accommodate to full figured women. On the quest to embrace there bodies and be more self-confident I have seen women wearing clothing that is poor in taste and in my personal opinion rather tacky! Just because they make in your size does not mean you should wear it! With respect to Jane on Drop Dead Diva the dress she desired was a black dress; simple, classic, elegant, timeless. The kind every women should have in her wardrobe. However I am referring to seeking an item in a size 24 (for example) when it was truly originally designed for a size 6. Alternating an article of clothing too such a degree will change the make-up of the original design.
There are some clothing items that would not fall under this category and an alteration of that size or greater would not hinder the quality of the garment in any way. However in my experience this is not usually the case. My hope would rather be to raise the standard and quality of plus size/full figured clothing across the board, so women from that demographic can feel attractive, stylist, sexy and confident! To tailor clothing to their silhouette. At the end of the episode Jane looses her case, but she did gain the attention of the business owner/stock holders. She receives a custom made version of the dress she wanted and the company embarked upon a new project; creating a designer clothing line for plus size women. A clothing line specifically to cater to their needs.
I hope what I have shared has not been interpreted as bashing or demeaning. The truth is no matter what size you are you should wear clothing that compliments your shape. Not everything I see clothing wise do I like and not everything that is available in my size I should wear. I seeking clothing which best suits my shape, personal style and taste. Look for things that best suits you. Why try and be a copy of somebody else?
Just something to think about……
~I am fearfully and wonderfully made~