Object Of Affection

Thank YOU to all who are taking time to read this blog!!  It really means a lot!!  It is my desire that this blog will not only discuss the idea of “REAL” beauty and challenge the current stereotypes and social norms surrounding a woman’s appearance, but also take a hard look at the many issues which impact women specially in the area of self-esteem, relationships and world views.  As mentioned before women are complex.  There are many sides which make up a woman and none should ever be overlooked or taken lightly!  Yet time and time again women some how get reduced to being a sexual object with the sole purpose of satisfying ones sexual pleasure.  This sadly is not a new issue, but one that has plagued women centuries.

Now I’m not a feminist by any means, but I have often wondered what it was like for women in the year days who fought for women’s rights.  The right to an education, to work and earn money, to own property or even run for political office.  The rights I freely exercise today!  It is amazing to think it wasn’t that long ago women were given the right to vote or permitted to hold positions that were solely designated to men.  Nevertheless even in the mist of progress to this day women are fragrantly portrayed and often treated as women sexual objects.  With the media, the entertainment industry both film and music [mainly pornography and rap music] along with human trafficking playing a huge role in perpetuating these archaic ideals the real problems lies when women themselves adopt these notions into their own core values.

Over the course of my career in Social Services I have had the opportunity to speak with numerous young girls and women and I am always astounded by what they believe about themselves.  An array of experiences have brought them to that place, but the root of it all the same.  A lie.  At some point a lie was presented masquerading as the truth.  Deception set in and the lie was embraced truth.  Strangely enough many have shared they all felt something was wrong with what was said or done and yet never challenged it.  Giving life to the lie that they are an object ie. “if it happened or if it was said it must be true.”

Being objectified is a degrading and deeply wounding experience.  It rips at the fabric of a woman’s soul.  If not addressed it can become a wall barricading one from ever having a full life; like a self inflicted prison.  Because the truth is you can never out run what you believe about yourself.  It is virtually impossible!  In some form or another whether big or some every woman has experienced this, myself included.  I too have had to fight to not believe the lies that were once presented to me as truth.  It is a battle I still fight today in some ways.  I am fortunate to have a great support network including friends and family, my faith and a strong church who constantly speak words of life and positivity into my life.  Always reminding me that the past and what said or done does not dictate nor determined who I am or what I will become.

Never let the actions or the words of one person over shadow the beauty of who you are.  You are NOT an object nor is your sole purpose for someone else’s personal gratification.

You are so much more than that!! Never forget it!!

Refining Beauty

~I am fearfully and wonderfully made~

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