A Real Resolution

2015 has officially begun!! I know many are used to hearing “New year, New Me” slogans or even participating in the timeless tradition of making New Years “resolutions.” Needless to say these things are popular at the start of a new year. It gives structure and motivation to some who are desiring to make significant changes in their lives and to help them achieve certain goals. All in all not a bad thing. Nevertheless for most it is just another “feel good” activity only to camouflage the fear of making any REAL change. It hides the lack of discipline to see a resolution through into an actual lifestyle change. That being said I personally have decided to shift my energy elsewhere.

In the year of 2015, if we are indeed going to break free from the past; its limitations, hinderances, personal insecurities and experience REAL change, approval from other people is something you are going to have to live without. There is a saying that “If you live for people’s approval you will die by their rejection.” And this is a harsh reality for many. Their identity is solely wrapped up in the acceptance and approval of others. It’s as if they are sentenced to live within the confines of someone else’s thoughts, opinions and/or personal like or dislike of who they are. Many surrender their desire for change in some area of their lives (or even worst their dream) because it may in fact directly conflict with someone else’s personal opinion.

It is a dangerous thing to have your self-worth relying so heavily on such individuals. You render the power to people who are often not: A. Walking in their purpose or pursing a dream of any kind, B. Setting goals where they are challenged or stretched in any way (ie. they continually choose what is comfortable and safe), and C. Wanting anything more out of life (ie. they have decided this is as far as they are going to go). They secretly have given up somewhere along the way and whether knowingly or not they want you to remain in the same boat with them. But this is where I draw the line……

In the year of 2015 I have NO desire (whatsoever) to follow people around in circles just because they have given up on their dream and/or purpose AND are afraid to take the necessary steps to move forward. I am not interested in making plans or “new years resolutions” of which I have no intension of following through with. And if this is your desire let me warm you some within your relationship circle may not like or approve of your proposed changes. In fact some relationships may suffer or dare I say end due to your choice! The key is to not let the short term pain impede your ability to make effective long term decision.

Now don’t get me wrong relationships are a wonderful thing; a great blessing. However it shouldn’t prevent you from pursuing whatever dream/goals that is within your heart. Within every relationship love and acceptance should be given freely; it should be a two way street. It should never be withheld at the cost of one’s dream or purpose. That is just too high of a price to pay……

In 2015 choose to breakout and break free from anything or anyone that will impede your progress!! I can honestly say one man’s opinion is not enough for me to forfeit my dream…..

This is the year to be more than ever before. Don’t let anything stop that from happening. A new years resolution is nothing without the boldness to walk it out…..

Refining Beauty

~I am fearfully and wonderfully made~

Necessary Loss

As I have been continuing down this journey of self-discovery and self-development it is very clear that as I change and evolve things around me have to change also. Behaviours, mindsets, priorities all have begun to shift to support the changes occurring in my life. One in particular is in the area of relationships. It is evident not everyone in my life is fit to take the trip or are required to do so. I have to admit it is a hard realization to come to, but nevertheless a rather necessary one nonetheless.

Loss of any kind is difficult to deal with. We often think of loss with respect to death; when someone we know and that is close to us passes away. However there is a kind of loss which has very little to do with the idea of physical death. There are some relationships that are long-term, seasonal or quite frankly were never intended to be established. While going through the process of self-development/self-discovery it is quite necessary for you to discern between the three. And here is where the loss comes in.

A relationship that has run it’s course or does not enhance your life in any way is hard enough to accept, however it is another thing entirely to take the necessary steps to bring the relationship to a close. This is an act of bravery; only the truly strong are able to do it. The reality it is impossible to think you can ever achieve success and accomplish things you’ve never done before with a network of relationships that sabotage progress, cause unnecessary pain and/or stress, or are not on a similar journey of change themselves. In the end conflict will arise and a decision will have to be made. The question is what are you more committed to? The perpetuation of a cycle of negativity or to your journey of transformation leading to purpose and fulfillment.

This is an area of loss I have become comfortable with. At first it was extremely hurtful because I failed to realize the purpose behind it. Not everyone in your life is meant to stay, especially not for as long as we often think. The sad truth is some are not suppose to be in it all…….

As the year comes to a close I strongly encourage you to re-evaluated your circle of friends and relationship network. There may be unforeseen hinderances that will surface due to the relationships you choose to surround yourself with. Although the loss of that relationship may seem too hard to bare it might in fact be your saving grace!!!

Refining Beauty

~I am fearfully and wonderfully made~

The Weight Of Confidence

Hello Everyone!!  I trust you all are enjoying your summer!!  I can honestly say that I am!!  The weather has finally warmed up and I am venturing outside to enjoy it.  I have been doing a lot of walking.  It is a great way to get some exercise, but it also gives me time to reflect on where I am and where I’m going.  Most importantly it has given me time to think through what my next steps will be.  As I said before embarking on this journey of transformation has been a major endeavor, however I have gladly taken on the challenge.  Of course it is has not been without it’s challenges, nevertheless it has also come with many successes.

Now I know my last post “The Blame Game” was a number of weeks ago, yet much of what I am experiencing now is the ripple effects of walking through the last stage of this current process.  By taking an honest look at myself ie. weaknesses and shortcomings I am better able to improve those areas, therefore enabling me to move forward into the things I know I am destined to do with my life.  That being said even with all the assessing and critiquing I have begun to walk in a new level of confidence.  Confidence in who I can, my area of gifting and abilities, but most importantly a greater acceptance in the uniqueness of my journey, and where this path is leading me.

Only recently I realized how much the approval or disapproval of others still influenced me (the way I think and feel about myself) and impacted the decisions I made.  In many of my previous blogs I spoke about being unique, original, different and truly embracing that, however the truth is these routes often comes with periods of loneliness, being misunderstood and feelings of isolation.  Things I frequently like to avoid. But to truly make an impact or a mark in this world you must be willing to stand alone and confidently following the vision within your heart. Sometime the harshest of life’s experience mold and shape our character, therefore preparing us for what is up ahead.

You are on shaky ground if you are constantly seeking the approval and affirmation of others. People are fickle and their opinion changes like the wind, therefore you can not leave it up to the general public or even close friends or family to always agree with the plans and purposes for your life.  Well meaning as they may be you as an individual must be confident in who you are and the decisions you are making for your life.

It has taken me a long time to learn this lesson; in some way I am still learning it.  At times I feel I should have already passed this stage and then I remember there is no shame in desiring to improve yourself.  No matter the age or stage self improvement never goes out of style. Confidently walk in who you are.  Don’t allow things that are subject to change influence your perception or decision making.

Refining Beauty

~I am fearfully and wonderfully made~

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