Knee Jerk Reaction

It is amazing how time is just flying by!! The first month of 2015 is coming to an end and so much has already begun to take place. In my last post I spoke about a “Real Resolution”; the kind that would actually bring about a change in your life. However the kind of change I proposed is not for the weak or faint at heart. It requires a bold, stout hearted individual to stand against personal fears, face insecurities, and step out from the crowd and be different!! I have to admit it, even thinking about it I experience butterflies in my stomach. For although I write about these things and I am committed to walking these principles out in my own life I am not exempt from the process or from how it affects me as an individual.

To this day I still experience fear when having to face certain situations. I often am frustrated at my responses because it almost feels like a “Knee Jerk Reaction.” Many times when I recount the incident over in my mind my first question usually is “Why did I do that or respond in that way?” Over the course of picking the situation apart it all boiled down to one word. Fear! I have to say that in the moment it isn’t always clear that I am afraid. However what is extremely evident is how quick I unconsciously go into defense mode, hence the knee jerk reaction.

An area as personal and intrinsic as fear is something that should not be overlooked. Taking the time to ask yourself these questions is important if you desire to uncover what is causing your responses to certain situations. I am NOT talking about mediation or listening to your inner voice. I am saying look at the hard facts. Remove the rose coloured glasses and get to the root of action/reaction or pattern of behaviour that may in fact be hindering your life in some way.

We have a tendency to gloss over the little things that we say or do and categorize them an idiosyncrasies ie. “quirks” in our personality. Nevertheless something impulsive as a “knee jerk reaction” if not addressed can be potentially dangerous. It usually comes with no warning and is driven by very strong emotion. Often the target of this kind of response is unsuspecting. It catches them completely off guard. At one point we all have be on the receiving end of this and I’m sure it wasn’t pleasant. Thinking about the person on the receiving end of such an outburst can help with choosing how to respond.

I strongly suggest in those moments to not respond or at least say as little as possible. Take some time to reflect on the situation, consult with someone who you respect and has a track record of giving sound (wise) advice. I personally pray about these type of issues. I gain much clarity and am able to work through my emotions more effectively. All this is to say take time to think before responding. Some times when facing fear a bold and courageous response is in order. Thus breaking intimidation and feelings of inferiority. However a knee jerk response is birthed out of a perceived fear and is usually associated to a past experience or false perception.

Something to think about……

Refining Beauty

~I am fearfully and wonderfully made~

Desire Is Not Enough

Change is something many of us want, and yet have difficulty accepting. The thought of their current reality changing in anyway makes some very nervous, nevertheless deep with in every heart there is a desire for change. To do more, to be more, to go beyond our current circumstances and reach our highest potential. Needless to say the desire to have change is simply not enough. You must be determined to do what is necessary to bring about the change you desire.

I have always marveled at the number of people who say they are working on a particular goal or earnestly want change in a certain area of their life. To say you are working on something, anything, requires a action plan of some sort. Meaning, you should be doing something ie. taking the necessary steps towards your goal or desired change. I say I marvel because there usually is no evidence that coincides with whatever change they want. It is one thing to have made an attempt towards your goal or have taken some steps forward and experienced a setback. This shows an effort has been made. But you can not say you desire “real” change if you choose to do NOTHING!!

Interestingly enough the desire for change and the willingness to get the job done is often short lived when we hit this little thing called “PROCESS.” All resolve seems to completely go out the window when we see the harsh reality of all the WORK we are required to do. However, we must understand when pursuing anything of worth and value we must be committed for the long hall; until the job is done. The process can not be avoided. In fact the process is a valuable tool which helps us to grow and mature, so that when you achieve success or whatever is you are striving for you are able to manage it with grace, poise and wisdom.

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We live in a generation that demands instant gratification. The idea of it being delayed is almost offensive. The truth is success costs something. Whether that is time, money, effort (or all three) you are required to something in order for what you desire to come to pass. Change just doesn’t happen. A goal is not reached by simply wishing. Work is involved. Success comes at a high price. The way I see it the process is like you paying the bill up front.

Do the work because in the end no one else is going to do it for you!!!

Refining Beauty

~I am fearfully and wonderfully made~

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